STOP DOING TO YOURSELF

                        We are our greatest enemy. We doubt ourselves,complicate our lives,cloud our minds with unimportant thoughts and negativity,We punish ourselves,hate ourselves and then feel sorry  for ourselves because "outside forces"  are making our lives a living hell. Life is beautiful-you're making ours living hell on your own. Each of us does things from time to time that make living happily more difficult than it needs to be.

                                          Surely some of it has difficult  because those are the cards we're dealt,but most of us- those who are better off financially and don't live on the streets-make our very own lives more difficult for ourselves.But there are things you can do to stop the miserable cycle that you have found yourself in - a cycle that i know all too well.here's 20 of them:

1. Stop running from your problems and pro castinating:

                                      Problems don't go away on their own.you can either make them go away or live with them.If you know you can't live them,then don't pro castinate because the weight of them on your mind only increases overtime.If you have a problem,then accept that you have a problem and face it-deal with it.Life is a long list of problems that must be overcome.The faster and better you overcome them, the better and happier your life will be.

2. Stop lying to yourself:

                                   You are the only person that you can trust...but if you have a habit of lying to yourself,then you can't even trust yourself.You have to be able to rely on yourself and on what you believe.

3. Stop living in the past:

                                          Yesterday was yesterday-it's gone and will never again be.Everyone carries emotional baggage with them.Some of us carry the weight of a depression past while others live in those happy long-gone moments that we consider to have been the best of our lives.You can reminisce if you'd like as long as you don't forget that your reality exists only in the present.Whatever the case,be wary of focusing on the paste events and do your best to live in the moment.

4. Stop attempting to buy happiness:

                             Happiness must be something attainable by each and every person no matter what his or her circumstance.If the  poorest of the poor can be happy,then happiness can not lie in  the material.

5. Stop relying on others:

                              People have their own lives filled with their own headaches,own problems,own mishaps and own successes.Friendship is great,but often doesn't weather the storm.Be self-reliant.Be independent.We all find ourselves alone at several points throughout our lives.If you find yourself on your lonesome and don't know how to deal with it because you are used to having constant support,then you will drown.

6. Stop fearing failure:

                           Failing is learning in real world.There is only so much that you can read up about the way the world works,but true knowledge comes from experience.The more times you go wrong,the more ways you know NOT to do it.

7. Stop doing the same thing over and over,expecting different results:

                                   If you tried something one way and it didn't work,then guess what will happen when you try again exactly in the same manner? Failure is only good when you learn from it,otherwise it is really just a failure.

8. Stop rejecting prospective partners because of your  past relationships:

                     You fell in love and had your heart broken;we all have.luckily for you,now that you have experienced the pain of a broken heart,you have fully experienced the love cycle and can grow as an individual.Relationships,like the rest of life, are learning experiences.Ultimately,you and your partner  decide whether or not the relationship will work.

9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself:

                                Life is tough for everyone.The richest of the rich have problems.The poorest of the poor of have problems. We make problems for ourselves-they don't exist outside of us.stop feeling sorry for yourself and start interacting with the world around you.

10. Stop trying to change others:

                                   People don't want to be changed and most often  can't be changed.You must learn  to accept people for who they are.the less you focus on all the things you find wrong about an individual,the more you can focus on how to deal with them and all their discrepancies. Don't fix people;learn to deal with them.

SELF-ESTEEM

                                      

                                         You can't touch it,but it affects how you feel.You can't see it,but it's there when you look at yourself in the mirror.You can't hear it,but it's there every time you talk about yourself.What is this important but mysterious thing? It's your self-esteem!

                      Self esteem is defined as confidence in your own merit as an individual.Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth.There are two types of self-esteem.

                         There is high self esteem which is when you feel good about yourself,and then there is  low self esteem which is when you feel bad about yourself.Being constantly criticized by family,friends and society tends to slowly trip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self esteem strips us of our self confidence to make even the smallest of decisions.

                           We think little of ourselves,and feel we are not worth a penny and do not deserve to be happy.High self esteem is good most of the time,but some people have too high self esteems and they could come on strong.People may call to these types as "cocky" or "annoying".

                       Improving your self esteem increases your confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and a better life.Individuals with truly high self esteem feel good about themselves and continue believing in themselves regardless of what others think of them.Some people feel good about themselves only as long as others support and approve them.The moment another person criticizes them,or withdraws her or his support from them,they not only feel bad about themselves,they may  even hate themselves.That would be the first step of low self esteem.when a person acts like that,life can be hurtful for most of the time and they may find themselves at the mercy of others.
                                               keep the following statement in mind :

                I am very special, unique and valuable person.I deserve to feel good about myself .