TRUST

      
 The most expensive thing in the world is TRUST,
                                         it can take YEARS to EARN  & just a matter of SECONDS to LOSE


  Out of all the things that we want from any relationship(be it with friends,family,boyfriends,and girlfriends or someone else) trust is perhaps the most vital.But despite the fact that it's something that we all want,both in ourselves, trusting others and others trusting us,it is one of the hardest things to define.

            One of the most important  aspect of trust is to being able to place confidence in another person.Often this comes down to being able to tell someone a secret of some kind  and knowledge that they won't reveal it to another soul.this is important especially with friends,because we all have things we need to talk about but we might not want to share with everyone.on other occasions,although not being the best thing that any of us do.It can mean telling someone else's secret to a third person  and knowing that they will not give away that you broke someone else's confidence.

                                        The other main aspect of trust is  knowing that a  person will always tell you the truth and not hide anything.this is often the biggest problem with trust with lovers,when one person will be hiding things from the other.this often leads to the suspicious person snooping around in their partner's things,reading text messages and emails and even following them if they suspect that they are lying  about where they are going.often this problem is caused by another break of trust : cheating

                           Cheating is often the worst thing that people can do to their partner,as the trust placed in that partner is on the understanding that they will not be with another person.however,it is often that lying that goes with cheating that is the biggest problem,and worse than the cheating itself.

Turn your disappointment into meaningful success

                          " Don't let today's disappointment cast a shadow on tomorrow's dream"

              If you have dealt with any disappointments lately and you are wondering how to turn it  all around know that it's never over.

Here's how you can bounce back from failure and turn into success:

1. Define success in your own terms:

              Failure is a subjective term.If you have very rigid ideas of what it means to succeed,you will often feel disappointed.if there is one thing that's certain in life,it's that nothing is certain.

2. Find the value in failure:

                  If you're looking for a job and you don't ace an interview,you could either decide you failed at that interview,or you succeeded in learning something to help you in the next-which might be an even better opportunity than the one that just past
                        " sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck"

I believe the greatest achievement in life is the choice  to be empowered,not paralyzed,by a disappointment.there is no greater success than the ability to take responsibility for your joy.

3. Act on what you've learned:

                      Anything can be useful if we learn from it and then do something with that knowledge.On the one hand, we know that consistency is crucial to creating positive change.On the other,we know that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
  Unfortunately, there is no magical formula for creating the lives we visualize.No one can tell us what to keep doing and what to do differently.We have to gauge for ourselves what's working and where we could improve;and then we have to keep going,knowing full well there are no guarentees.

4. Focus on the process not the results:  

                     Just because you didn't reach a specific goal you set,that doesn't mean you can't still do what you'd like to do.It's not over just because you didn't create one specific outcome.If you keep doing what you love, you will inevitably identify new possibilities that will fulfill you.
 Another benefit of adopting a process oriented approach is that  it's easier to be mindful when you focus on the action  steps.This doesn't mean  you stop setting goals and measuring  your progress towards them.It just means let each step fuel your sense of meaning,joy and accomplishment.

5. Accept that it isn't always personal:

           As much as  we'd like to believe hard work always pays off,sometimes there are things beyond our control that have nothing to do with what we did or didn't do.this may be the reason a lot of people try  and try again only to achieve the same results.Some things are just harder to do than others.
  We can also find room for empowerment ,but sometimes  we need to accept the results aren't always reciprocal to efforts.however we increase our odds of creating results if we choose to move forward regardless.

6. Create your own luck:

                    If we stay positive and keep our eyes open,we will inevitably see opportunities in life.It's the difference between walking with your head held high and noticing a rainbow,and walking with our gaze on your feet  and seeing only puddles.

7. Get smart:

             It's entirely possible that you failed because you set yourself up for failure. SMART goals work-they're specific,measurable,attainable,realistic and time-bound.

                     

STOP DOING TO YOURSELF

                        We are our greatest enemy. We doubt ourselves,complicate our lives,cloud our minds with unimportant thoughts and negativity,We punish ourselves,hate ourselves and then feel sorry  for ourselves because "outside forces"  are making our lives a living hell. Life is beautiful-you're making ours living hell on your own. Each of us does things from time to time that make living happily more difficult than it needs to be.

                                          Surely some of it has difficult  because those are the cards we're dealt,but most of us- those who are better off financially and don't live on the streets-make our very own lives more difficult for ourselves.But there are things you can do to stop the miserable cycle that you have found yourself in - a cycle that i know all too well.here's 20 of them:

1. Stop running from your problems and pro castinating:

                                      Problems don't go away on their own.you can either make them go away or live with them.If you know you can't live them,then don't pro castinate because the weight of them on your mind only increases overtime.If you have a problem,then accept that you have a problem and face it-deal with it.Life is a long list of problems that must be overcome.The faster and better you overcome them, the better and happier your life will be.

2. Stop lying to yourself:

                                   You are the only person that you can trust...but if you have a habit of lying to yourself,then you can't even trust yourself.You have to be able to rely on yourself and on what you believe.

3. Stop living in the past:

                                          Yesterday was yesterday-it's gone and will never again be.Everyone carries emotional baggage with them.Some of us carry the weight of a depression past while others live in those happy long-gone moments that we consider to have been the best of our lives.You can reminisce if you'd like as long as you don't forget that your reality exists only in the present.Whatever the case,be wary of focusing on the paste events and do your best to live in the moment.

4. Stop attempting to buy happiness:

                             Happiness must be something attainable by each and every person no matter what his or her circumstance.If the  poorest of the poor can be happy,then happiness can not lie in  the material.

5. Stop relying on others:

                              People have their own lives filled with their own headaches,own problems,own mishaps and own successes.Friendship is great,but often doesn't weather the storm.Be self-reliant.Be independent.We all find ourselves alone at several points throughout our lives.If you find yourself on your lonesome and don't know how to deal with it because you are used to having constant support,then you will drown.

6. Stop fearing failure:

                           Failing is learning in real world.There is only so much that you can read up about the way the world works,but true knowledge comes from experience.The more times you go wrong,the more ways you know NOT to do it.

7. Stop doing the same thing over and over,expecting different results:

                                   If you tried something one way and it didn't work,then guess what will happen when you try again exactly in the same manner? Failure is only good when you learn from it,otherwise it is really just a failure.

8. Stop rejecting prospective partners because of your  past relationships:

                     You fell in love and had your heart broken;we all have.luckily for you,now that you have experienced the pain of a broken heart,you have fully experienced the love cycle and can grow as an individual.Relationships,like the rest of life, are learning experiences.Ultimately,you and your partner  decide whether or not the relationship will work.

9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself:

                                Life is tough for everyone.The richest of the rich have problems.The poorest of the poor of have problems. We make problems for ourselves-they don't exist outside of us.stop feeling sorry for yourself and start interacting with the world around you.

10. Stop trying to change others:

                                   People don't want to be changed and most often  can't be changed.You must learn  to accept people for who they are.the less you focus on all the things you find wrong about an individual,the more you can focus on how to deal with them and all their discrepancies. Don't fix people;learn to deal with them.

SELF-ESTEEM

                                      

                                         You can't touch it,but it affects how you feel.You can't see it,but it's there when you look at yourself in the mirror.You can't hear it,but it's there every time you talk about yourself.What is this important but mysterious thing? It's your self-esteem!

                      Self esteem is defined as confidence in your own merit as an individual.Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth.There are two types of self-esteem.

                         There is high self esteem which is when you feel good about yourself,and then there is  low self esteem which is when you feel bad about yourself.Being constantly criticized by family,friends and society tends to slowly trip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self esteem strips us of our self confidence to make even the smallest of decisions.

                           We think little of ourselves,and feel we are not worth a penny and do not deserve to be happy.High self esteem is good most of the time,but some people have too high self esteems and they could come on strong.People may call to these types as "cocky" or "annoying".

                       Improving your self esteem increases your confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and a better life.Individuals with truly high self esteem feel good about themselves and continue believing in themselves regardless of what others think of them.Some people feel good about themselves only as long as others support and approve them.The moment another person criticizes them,or withdraws her or his support from them,they not only feel bad about themselves,they may  even hate themselves.That would be the first step of low self esteem.when a person acts like that,life can be hurtful for most of the time and they may find themselves at the mercy of others.
                                               keep the following statement in mind :

                I am very special, unique and valuable person.I deserve to feel good about myself .

DESTINY AND HARDWORK

 

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS LUCK. YOU DETERMINE  YOUR OWN                                                        DESTINY 

                                    I think this statement is very true  to a certain extent.There is no such as luck.You determine your own destiny.This is because nothing comes free and easy in this world.It is you who have to work for it.there is also a saying,"99% comes  from hard work only 1%  comes from luck". Miracles do happen but very seldom.

                      Where there is a will there is a way goes the adage but, how practical is it in today's context is something that is to be scrutinized threadbare.

             Hard work and perseverance are the two keys to success.We can shape our own destiny by hard work  and perseverance.but,what if we don't succeed even after working hard and persevering? 

                         We often feel and believe that we can shape our destiny to our liking,by hard work and perseverance.But,when we don't succeed even after working hard,we lose faith in these values and feel that the destiny has something else in store for us and we are just slaves to it.I feel that no matter however hard we work,destiny controls us and our future and we are bound to follow it demurely.

               But on the other hand,i feel all this talk of destiny and believing in it blindly are the signs of a weak-minded person who wants to avoid his responsibilities. A strong person will weather every storm of destiny,come what may,to achieve his/her goals!They will not merely accept what destiny has to offer them.They will fight for what they want from destiny.

                     There goes a saying 'shallow men believe in luck,strong men believe in cause and effect'. This holds very true of persons who believe in themselves and in the values of hard work.Just because you didn't get something or couldn't achieve your cherished goal even after a lot of hard work you  shouldn't settle for something inferior,which you may feel  the destiny has to offer you or has offered you!

                                                  Always be a fighter and fight until your last breath for accomplishing your dreams.This is a world of cut-throat and ruthless competition.remember in this world there is no place for quitters because "winners never quit and quitters never win".

FRIENDSHIP AND BETRAYAL

                   Betrayal -     A word that is so harsh yet it still exists in the world.this word had belittled the importance of the word,'trust'.It caused the strong bonds between two people to be broken and had replaced the kind hearts of many with hatred.

                                The trust that a person has in his friends and family is paramount to a healthy life and quality relationships.Once this trust is broken,or betrayed a person's security can be shattered,leaving him doubtful and insecure about all aspects of life.

                          Backstabbing friends- This is usually more in high school.

                                 No one wants to have bad experiences in high school,but how can it be helped?You're starting to look at colleges,and grades are becoming important so you can get to the college you want to get to.As if homework is not enough,you have to deal with all the drama that goes around boyfriends,schoolwork,family issues-but no one expects to have a backstabbing friend.it's the last thing on your mind.But unfortunately it happens.
                                  High school changes people.girls can feel intimidated by friends and guys.drugs and alcohol play an important role in being "cool".And even though you know you're doing the right thing...you get punished.
                                 So how do you deal with those backstabbing friends?Well,to start with,if they're backstabbing you,they are not your friends.You've been friends since forever-best friends for life!No one wants to lose that.But if they're doing this to you obviously their views have changed.But before dumping a friend,talk to her.If she denies it,then is she really worth the trouble?If she can't be honest with you,then she doesn't care about your friendship anymore.She could be intimidated by other girls,but if she can't see where you're coming from,then it's not worth it.    
                            There is a  saying: some people enter your life for a season.When one door closes,another one opens.just think about all the others doors opening.you may be losing one friend,but you might gain another,someone closer and better.
                              Don't let it get you down .keep your head up and think positive.someone else will enter your life and make you realize why it didn't work out with her.You'll find someone who will accept you for who you are,no matter what other girls say.

SAVE GIRL CHILD

                               It is indeed important to save girl child as today's girl will be the mother of a child tomorrow.Female feticide and infanticide are not just only issues pertaining with  girl child.But at every stage of life,she is discriminated and abandoned for education,living standard and basic nutrition.She is not considered at par with the boy child.Not only in early stages but even as a teenager,she is not provided with good clothes,nutritious food items and forced to eat left over crumbs.Even when she is supposed to be in college,she is hurriedly married off where she has to depend on others for her survival.she doesn't enjoy social and economic independence.These conditions further aggravate  the overall condition of females in a country.again if she gives birth to a girl,the whole journey of discrimination begins.

                         She is your mom,she is your wife,she is your daughter......
                                  simply respect and feel her that she is the most awesome person on earth...
                          you don't know but she even doesn't have time  for herself as she always try to make you happy..and this happens only in INDIA..

                                 On the one hand we see girls entering in the fields of all kinds of professions holding senior positions in offices,becoming engineers,doctors,managers etc..We are obviously impressed and are likely to believe that,the position of the girl is now after all not too bad.
  However the complexity  of the problem becomes malicious when we see that,together with girls entering professions there is a simultaneous and continuous rise in the graph of crimes against women.
                 Why and how do these two sides of the same problem co-relate?

This situation is true of the urban area where education and freedom is given to girls-to a great extent,but even this growth of this class does not really bear any testimony to the equality of girls with boys .

                         In villages girls are not sent to schools and,if at all they are,they drop out after an year or two of schooling.Here,the myth still remains that,education is useless for girls-they have to concentrate on house work, child bearing and child bringing up all through life-and all this, it is believed needs no education.The village people are hard to convince that education of women is as important if not more important than the education of men.Girl child-she is,even to-day in the 21st century treated as an object to be used instead of an individual human being with all the ingredients of human beings-like her counterparts-the boy.
                      No matter what status a women may achieve outside home,inside the home she,by and large remains a chattel.When this is the ground reality of the girl at home and outside home it appears that, even education and financial independence have not helped women really enhancing their status.